I stare down my small son when I yawn. Watching and waiting for the telltale signs. Signals that his yawn is coming. That he can’t control it. Nothing comes.
I yawn quite often. Let’s face it, between my work and fairly consistent 6am workouts, I’m a tired mama. There’s some serious yawns being thrown down over here. And nothing in return.
Is he stoic, I wonder very briefly. Not likely. His arm grazed the table and he’s bursting into tears. It’s not just him, it turns out.
Yawning is not always contagious. It’s learned socially.
The ability to “catch” a yawn actually requires some sophisticated social skills.
There are interesting reports on it. In 2011, researchers at the University of Pisa reported that depth of relationship impacts whether or not a yawn will be contagious and how quickly the yawnee will respond.
A scientist wondered if you could predict how someone felt about you by giving them, in essence, a yawn test, aka Sam’s Yawn Delay Predictor.”
In a footnote at the back of his book, he wonders “if you could tell someone was falling out of love with you by timing their yawn delay.”
For me, I need to wait for my son to be a bit bigger. Ill be watching for those yawns.
Yesterday was day 60 of blogging daily.
What have I learned?
- How to maintain a daily writing practice, although I often wrote ahead
- Better ways to express my opinions concisely; some days I still don’t feel I hit the mark, but my ratio is better
- How to flexing my creative muscles – both in writing and with ideas. This is beneficial when I feel constrained at work.
- I can use blogging as a process with which I work out ideas – taking from a grain, an inkling, to something more thoughtful
- When I seek out ideas on which to write, I will uncover concepts I’ve never before considered
- That sometimes all I can do is phone it in, but I will feed guilt over it. I should do better.
- Some friends I think will read and be supportive won’t, and others will surprise me
- The topics I believe will resonate often won’t
- If I want to truly increase readership, I must have a plan
- I sometimes hide from the hard stuff
- I can always dig deeper
- I want more people to read what I’m creating
- I need more writing practice. Perpetually.
Will I continue?
I won’t continue writing daily, but I will commit to a schedule of at least 3 days each week. The days of the week may change, but I want to keep my momentum and engagement.
Lunch and snacks are prepared. Fleeces lay on the couch ready to be worn. The car is gassed up. Sunhats and sunscreen are at the ready. Beanies also. It is the Bay Area, after all, and microclimates demand preparation. Alarms are set and everyone is early to bed.
But the night is a difficult one.
We can’t go the beach today.
Surprisingly, he doesn’t care. I’m more disappointed than he. Who’s behaving like the child now?
Confidence isn’t about sharing your idea more loudly than everyone else. If you have something of value to add to the conversation, wait your turn. It will still be relevant.
Confident people with good ideas don’t need to interrupt. They use pauses and silence wisely to help move issues forward.
Interrupting is not a sign of power, nor does it prove that what you have to say is more important. Conversely, it show impatience, impudence and rudeness.
Lying by omission is still lying.
Not taking action is an action.
“What we choose not to do matters,” wrote Seth Godin on his blog today.
Not standing up for someone.
Not standing up for yourself.
Not saying thank you.
Not saying, “it wasn’t my idea.”
This ups the pressure. And the ante.
Writing for pleasure has always been a very personal thing for me. I write for work all day long, but it’s technical, business oriented, and I don’t RELATE to it. It’s not pieces of me.
I’m not afraid to speak my mind, talk with people at any professional or personal level…yet I’ve been struggling with putting more of my self into my professional self and putting myself out there for all my professional contacts to see.
Yet how can I become an evangelist for myself if I stay in the shadows?
I don’t believe I can. And so, as with many things in my life these days, I am practicing